Stress gets to all of us from time to time, but for some it is a permanent companion that reduces our quality of life. But even when you have the world on your shoulders, and life seems too tough, there are things you can do. Here are five simple steps you that will help you to take back control of your life.
Our mood controls our life. When we are feeling low, perhaps because something unpleasant has happened in our lives, we make different choices from when our mood is good and we are feeling really happy. Outcomes to interactions with others are influenced by our mood – though we are likely to think it was something about them. Our mood state does not have to be some random thing controlled by the vicissitudes of life. You can take control of it. Here’s how…
There are a lot of people who find it anything from difficult to impossible to control their eating. They eat compulsively regardless of whether or not they are hungry. They eat much more than they need. Enjoyment of life diminishes. Thoughts of food dominate, and feelings of guilt ensue after every failure. This is a big problem, obesity is no fun. It is even less so when you feel powerless to change it.
Anxiety destroys quality of life. But it is also part of life. The trick is to learn how to control it, to alleviate it and even, on occasion, to simply allow it to be there. Here’s one quick ‘trick’ that will allow you to escape from its grasp for a short while. That short while may not be as long as you want, but it gives you a break any time you want one, and it teaches you, most importantly, that you can have control of your life.
For some, life is a struggle. There is just one thing after another. It never ends. Then just when there seems to be light at the end of the tunnel, the roof falls in and you are buried under a burden that’s just too much for you to deal with. Pills don’t help. In fact no one helps, and crying is the only break you get from it all. Want a way out?
It’s really strange how our emotions seem to control our lives. Well… perhaps not so much our lives, but how we feel about our lives. You can be sailing along quite happily and then suddenly a big storm appears out of nowhere – just didn’t see it coming – and bang your world is in pieces and the prospect of a return to the idyllic happiness you were experiencing is gone forever.
What do you when someone working for a charity stops you in the street and starts to chat to you as if you were an old friend or someone they’ve been waiting all their lives to meet? Do you chat with them? Do you get annoyed and march off? Do you give them the money they want? Do you pretend they are invisible and avoid eye contact at all costs? I didn’t do any of those things…